We are just talking. No need to feel pressure or anxiety.

I might just fuck you occasionally for fun. Who knows

Answer this.

What I wanted you to notice in your second statement after you said noted is that you have an extreme desire and pull to make sure someone else’s needs are getting met. Essentially you are demonstrating you have a need to submit in a non-sexual manner.

You’ve never had someone appreciate that service that you’ve provided or make it a safe space for you so you just burn yourself out the difference is when you submit to someone who fills your income puts back into you as much as you put in them.

What are your thoughts?

We are actually completely compatible

The difference in our is my time and experience.

Nov 2024 for me.

Primal… when I’m in a specific headspace my subs see a change in my eyes and face and I become more animalistic. Alpha wolf if you will. (I identify with and say my spirit animal is a dire wolf) 🐺 Stalking my prey. I would eat you alive but start at the bottom so you can watch yourself being devoured.

But it sounds like it’s just not what you are looking for and I do want to respect that. Feel free to continue looking for what you want and if you have any questions or even just want to talk just reach out.

Likewise, if you are ever in the area, let me know

You can’t come here right?

That’s understandable. What about after? How do you envision things going?

I can definitely make the trip once, or occasionally but I don’t see myself regularly doing that

We can negotiate a bit. What do you have going on now?

So to be honest there is a very high chance you will fall in love with me and become obsessed with me.

It happens with almost everyone.

I’m not being conceited or arrogant.

Then there is a small chance we will be like oil and water if you are toxic or crazy 😆

Like FWB?

As long as you have a high EQ which I think you do and which is why you’re attracted to me I think we’ll be fine

Is that what you want?

I’m not sure I understand what you mean?

How are you doing?

I’m an icecream fiend

Why did you get so quiet?

OK, I just wanted to make sure I didn’t stress you out

How do you groom your pussy?

Wax it.

I’m going to give you a shot but you better show some serious fucking initiative and gratitude. I better feel how grateful you are through your mouth and your pussy.

Good morning sexy. What are you up to?

Why didn’t you respond to either of my two messages from last night?

Let’s get one thing straight, because you have it backwards. You came to me for this. You’ve been asking me for exactly this, and I told you plainly it doesn’t even fully fit how I usually run things, and I’m giving it to you anyway. So the gratitude doesn’t flow the way you’re pointing it.

This isn’t role-play and it isn’t a shtick. It’s real, and it’s the structure you said you wanted. Wanting it and then fighting it the moment it shows up is the newbie in you, and that’s fine, but it’s the exact thing standing between you and what you crave.

I will never hurt you and I will never make you do anything you haven’t agreed to. You can stop anything, always. But inside what you asked for, your job is not to negotiate from nerves. It’s to let go. The fighting is fear talking. The wanting is the truth. Feed the right one.

When you’re done wrestling me and ready to actually receive what you begged for, tell me, and I’ll take it from there.

Are you doing ok? I want to make sure you didn’t shut down. For people that have had trauma in the past or haven’t been in a healthy dynamic or relationship. Sometimes my dominant behavior can be triggering.

Or I’m an asshole. That’s another option

Would you like me to pin you down and fuck you?

Then let me make it simple. You’re not triggered. You’d know the difference, a trigger shuts you down and you’ve told me you don’t shut down. You’re resisting because it’s new and nobody has ever actually made you surrender before. That’s not damage. That’s the door.

And no, I’m not going to soften into asking nicely so it feels safer. Yes, I order. Yes, you’ll show me your gratitude with your mouth and your body, and you’ll mean every second of it. That’s not me doubting you’d give it. It’s me taking it, because being taken is the thing you’ve never had and can’t stop turning over in your head. I’m not here to woo you or talk you into me.

And if it’s too much, that’s okay, we might just not be a fit. Maybe what you actually want is a man who asks and suggests, has sex with you and calls it a night. Maybe not even a top. Nothing wrong with that. But that’s not me, and I won’t pretend to be him to keep you.

You can walk any time, and you can stop anything. But if you want this, stop analyzing it to death and let go. Say yes, and mean it. 😘

Sorry, I meant to reply this a while ago, but I forgot to send it

First, breathe. Feeling intimidated is normal, especially with something newer that hits this deep. The fact that you’re still here asking instead of bolting tells me plenty.

Let me explain the part you keep circling, because you should understand it, not just take my word for it. When I tell you what to do, it’s not because I think you couldn’t decide for yourself. It’s that being told takes the weight off you. You run your whole life all day, everyone leaning on you. In this one space you don’t have to carry any of it. You get to stop managing and just be taken care of. That’s the relief in it. It’s a gift, not a knock on you.

Now the honest part, and I’ll say it straight because you deserve that. The women in my life get used. Sometimes I degrade them, dehumanize them, treat them like they’re mine to do what I want with. And they don’t just put up with it, they crave it. Here’s why. When a woman trusts me completely and knows she’s safe, being used like that is the deepest kind of letting go there is. In that moment she doesn’t have to be composed or capable or hold anything together. She just gets to be mine and feel wanted harder than most people ever feel anything. Being objectified by someone who actually treasures you isn’t disrespect, it’s the opposite. It’s my full attention on you and nothing else.

And that’s only one side of me. Other times I’m soft, gentle, supportive. I hold her, I take care of her, I build her back up after. The hard and the soft aren’t opposites, they’re the same care pointed two different ways, and you don’t get one from me without the other.

I read what’s in front of me. I don’t push past what you’re ready for, and if I ever get it wrong, you tell me and we adjust. You agree to everything, you can slow down or stop anything, anytime. Safety comes first with me, always, because none of the rest works without it.

Let me also be clear about what this is, so you’re weighing the right thing. This isn’t me trying to be your boyfriend or husband. I’m not looking to court you or build a life together. In BDSM we call it a dynamic, and that’s what I offer. It can be deep and caring, but it’s its own thing, not a traditional relationship.

And it might not be for you, which is completely okay. There are all kinds of Doms and all kinds of men. If what you really want is someone softer, or a boyfriend in the normal sense, that’s valid, it’s just not me. I’m a specific kind, and I’d rather you know that than get talked into something that isn’t your fit.

No pressure. Ask me anything, take your time. Either way, I’ve got you.

Goodnight. Sweet dreams.

Get some rest.

Interesting concept.

Would you like to disconnect?

I’m going to need you to communicate more frequently and in a clearer manner than that.

What would you like. I still don’t feel like you addressed my comment.

Good girl. I like pictures and videos sent to me without asking. It helps me keep an eye on my property

You want to know what I meant? Easy. When you disappear on me, drop me a line so I’m not left wondering about you. “Slammed at work, I’ll come find you tonight.” That’s it. I just do not like guessing where you are.

But here’s what I actually want to know. You’ve been turning me over in your head for two days now, I can tell. So tell me the truth, are you nervous, curious, still deciding, or is this not for you? Whatever it is, say it plainly and I’ll take it from there.

I want to give you the same honesty you’ve given me, because you’ve been straight with me and that deserves a real answer, not a fade.

I’ve been thinking about what you shared. The truth is I’m not walking away because of anything wrong with you. You’re attractive, you’re direct, and your curiosity is genuine. But when I put it all together, the picture doesn’t work. You’re 216 miles away and can’t travel, at least not at first, which means every meet is entirely on me. Hours of driving, hotels, all of it, indefinitely. I’d carry that willingly for the right dynamic. But you also told me plainly that submission doesn’t do much for you yet, that you’re still deciding if this is even for you, and that you’re hoping it clicks once things get physical. That’s a lot of maybe stacked on top of a lot of miles.

Here’s the thing. What I want runs deeper than the bedroom, and you deserve to explore this with someone where the logistics don’t put all the weight on one side. Starting a power exchange where I’m proving myself through effort while you’re still deciding isn’t a dynamic, it’s an audition, and that’s not how I operate.

None of this is a knock on you. You were honest about where you are, and that’s more than most people manage. If your situation changes, or you figure out this really is what you want and you can meet me partway, literally and otherwise, my door isn’t locked. But for now I’m stepping back, and I wanted you to hear exactly why instead of wondering.