Good girl. Now I know you can follow instructions.

No. I don’t test.

Happens all the time.

I would see that as not being very interested. Not a test and not a red flag or deal breaker just information.

That’s allowed. 😉

I’m getting ready to head to physical therapy.

I was in a car accident and rehabbing my ankle and shoulder. But you couldn’t tell there is anything wrong from watching.

So it will still most likely be the best sex of your life. 😉

Feb 11 they are both preexisting the car accident just aggravated it so I’m taking advantage of the free training from insurance.

And that wasn’t a joke. I’m pretty competitive.

It’s not that serious 😂

All done.

What are you up to this evening.

Car accident.

Sooooo you are 9 miles away

I’m not sure what to say about that. How long had you been talking?

To be candid, I feel like I’ve had to pull one-sentence replies out of you for almost a month. Now you tell me you went on a date with a psychopath and loved it, while I was working for your attention.

From my perspective, it looks like I was a lower priority, less interesting than a psychopath, and your backup option. But I’m not a backup option.

Fair enough. You’re single, you’re allowed to date, and I’m not trying to argue that. I said how it looked from my side and I stand by it, but I’m not going to keep going back and forth on it.

Here’s the part that actually matters, because I think we’re closer than this thread makes it seem. You said what’s mine is mine. Same for me. I don’t share and I don’t do casual or FWB. When you’re mine, you’re mine, completely, taken care of, held to a standard.

Where it gets misread is the sharing piece, so let me be straight about it. What I run isn’t regular poly, everyone dating around in a free-for-all. It’s a Dom structure, and I’m the center of it by design. The women who are mine are fully mine, exclusive to me. The reason it doesn’t run exclusive back the other way isn’t that I’m keeping options open or that anyone is a placeholder, it’s the shape of the dynamic. Being one of mine is its own kind of belonging, not a watered-down relationship. So it isn’t a double standard, it’s a different structure, and I won’t dress it up as something it isn’t.

That’s the real thing you’re weighing, not whether you’re allowed to go on a date. So if it’s something you actually want to give yourself to, the drinks offer stands and we figure the rest out in person. If it isn’t for you, I respect that too, no hard feelings.

No problem. Take care.